“A beef-only thinker is someone you cannot simply talk to. Anything that is not an expression of pure, unqualified support for whatever they are doing or saying is received as a mark of disrespect, and a provocation to conflict. From there, you can only crash into honor-based conflict mode, or back away and disengage.”–Venkatesh Rao
Personally, backing away and disengaging has proved much more useful in the long run than full, “Go out in the parking lot and practice falling down, I’ll be right out” conflict mode.
Worth reading the whole thing, or it seemed so the first time I saw it.