“A beef-only thinker is someone you cannot simply talk to. Anything that is not an expression of pure, unqualified support for whatever they are doing or saying is received as a mark of disrespect, and a provocation to conflict. From there, you can only crash into honor-based conflict mode, or back away and disengage.”–Venkatesh Rao
Personally, backing away and disengaging has proved much more useful in the long run than full, “Go out in the parking lot and practice falling down, I’ll be right out” conflict mode.
Worth reading the whole thing, or it seemed so the first time I saw it.
“Feminism is mixed up with a muddled idea that women are free when they serve their employers but slaves when they help their husbands.”–G.K. Chesterton
Of course, that’s only the case in Chesterton’s day, and he died in 1936. Today’s feminism is different because…
“It’s not that I have something to hide. I have nothing I want you to see.” — Anon
Seen online this morning. This strikes a chord with my background in security and patient privacy. Most of us, or at least many of us, were we to notice someone staring at us, particularly if they follow us around while showing particular curiosity about our every move and word, would take exception. “Is there something you want?” would be a mild response. “You–leave me alone.” a little more direct. Continue reading
“I started public speaking a few years later. I was always scared to speak in front of others and be judged. But I always had two goals when I spoke:
“Say something they’ve never heard before. Usually wrapped inside a story.
“Make them laugh, or even shock them.
“I’ve been writing every day for 29 years.
“My one goal when I write: never hit “publish” unless I am afraid of what people will think of me when they read it.
“Better to be free than locked in an opinion ghetto. People are only your friends in opinion ghettos as long as you agree with them.”–James Altucher
“If you are asking me what the individual can do right now, in a political sense, I’d have to say he can’t do all that much. Speaking for myself, I am more concerned with the transformation of the individual, which to me is much more important than the so-called political revolution.”–William S. Burroughs
“The thing the media is talking about, in heavy rotation.
“The breaking news, the one you’re required to give an opinion on.
“The thing is, if it’s not for you, about you, or something you need to engage in, then who put it on your agenda?
“The media benefits from turning you into their product, once you give them your attention.
“Feel free, but do it because you’ve chosen to.
“Here’s something to consider: the world doesn’t get better when you spend more time engaging with mass media. That’s pretty clear.
“But it does get better when you spend more time doing things that matter. Actions matter.”–Seth Godin
Or, as my friend Susan might say, “Do you have agency? If not, why have you given it space in your head?”
“Freedom is not empowerment. Empowerment is what the Serbs have in Bosnia. Anybody can grab a gun and be empowered. It’s not entitlement. An entitlement is what people on welfare get, and how free are they? It’s not an endlessly expanding list of rights – the “right” to education, the “right” to health care, the “right” to food and housing. That’s not freedom, that’s dependency. Those aren’t rights, those are rations of slavery – hay and a barn for human cattle. There’s only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences.”–P. J. O’Rourke
“From time to time, it’s good to remember there’s a multibillion dollar industry based on keeping you in a perpetual state of stupidity, rage, resentment and paranoia.”–David Burge
“I’m from the Northeast. But my hero’s journey played out in the South. My family is middle-class, but my journey was strictly blue-collar. Why? Something impelled me to that part of the country and that stratum of society.
“I drove tractor-trailers, I worked on oil rigs, I picked fruit as a migrant laborer; I lived in hellholes without electricity and running water; my friends were mechanics and roustabouts and body-and-fender men. Why? Had I been in control of my journey, I could have selected any one of hundreds of other places and people and odysseys. Something made me choose this one. What? I had no idea. I didn’t even know that choice was involved. Something simply compelled me.
“The hero’s journey is a metaphor for our artist’s life-to-be. It’s a foreshadowing, an adumbration of the Artist’s Journey to come. The passages are parallels. One prefigures the other.
“Before my hero’s journey, I couldn’t write. After, I could. I write like a truck driver. The virtues that sustain me are blue-collar virtues, Southern virtues, workingman’s virtues. Everything I learned on my passage that I thought was useless has proved to be fundamental, indispensable.”–Steven Pressfield
Change “Northeast” to “mid-Atlantic” and “played out in the South” to “played out in British Columbia” and it’s pretty close…
The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.
We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom. Continue reading